JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR See through In order for a relationship to stand, one of the key things to pay particular attention to is transparency. Its not a nice feeling when you don't know what's up with your partner especially when you get to hear his latest good news from elsewhere and not from him. A lot of people do not come to terms early with the fact that they have become partially the responsibility of the person they are with (and its partial because you're not married yet). They feel they're still on their own and can do whatever they like and they don't see why they have to 'report' to the other person. This not only makes your partner feel like you're hiding something but may also be a cause for frigidity in your relationship. This may in turn cause a breakup which defeats the purpose of this whole series of article. Transparency is not you 'reporting' to your partner,it is you respecting and caring for your partner enough to let...

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR Siblings,friends,everything A lot of people find themselves in marriages where their partners are like complete strangers. Long story short,they are just 'boss and secretary'. I used to think this happened during the time arranged marriages were rampant but to my disappointment,no. I can't even begin to understand. A relationship where everything is so formal? Like imagine this convo; Husband: Good evening Gloria,how are you today? Wife: I am fine thank you. i hope you had a good day.What do you wish to eat this evening please? Husband: some rice with okro stew. Thank you. I'm so bored I can't continue. What happened to playing and jumping around and stealing each others food and hiding clothes and telling unfunny jokes and teasing etc?? I could go on and on and on and on and I won't end. I love fun. I love to play. Not that I'm not serious,but you seriously can't be serious all the time. Some people are finding ...

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR  Love,immeasurable Someone once told me there was no way two people could love each other equally. She said "definitely, one person's love will exceed the other". Truthfully, I had no idea about this or how true it is so I asked google. I wrote 'can two people love each other equally?' the answer I got got me thinking on a lot of things. 'It is quite futile to discuss if anybody feels "more" love than the other. The fact of the matter is this: People love differently.Therefore it is quite impossible to say to one person:"I love you more than you love me."The only appropriate text you could use would have to be:"I love you differently than you love me." There is not a more or less. Love, -true love!- is not something that can be compared to one another. If you use the word "love" in its truest meaning there cannot be any differentiation: You either love or you don't. There is no "I ...

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR  I love you,I appreciate you,I'm sorry Abrakadabra..."and we lived happily ever after" What an ending. (sorry you didn't get to hear the full story), but happily ever after does exist,well not like in the fairy tales but they really do. All you need are the three magic sentences...I love you,I appreciate you and I'm sorry. When your partner is becoming impossible, the first sentence (i love you)will do, when his imperfections come into play the second sentence (I appreciate you) will do and when you need the peace in your relationship then the third sentence (im sorry)will do. Regardless of who was wrong. It never really matters who was wrong or right, unless you're planning to move on from that relationship. I used to think 'huh????' Like 'seriously??' Why should I apologise for someone else's mistakes. I'm smiling now because I know you think the same. Trust me,its not the easiest thing on earth to ...

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR Finding the "P" Purpose; the reason for the existence of something. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking their relationships can thrive only on the fuel of love, but that's (confidently from experience) not true. You won't always wake up in love and that's a fact. So the question is,does it end when you don't feel your heart beat faster anymore, or when you don't 'uneccessarily' miss that person as often like you used to in the early stages of your relationship? No, it doesn't. I personally believe, apart from what I have come to know from the bible,that everything has a purpose and your relationship definitely has one. Both of you didn't just come together for the fun of it. There's a reason for your coming together and you have to find it. It is when you find it that your relationship can truly have meaning. At that point, you don't think about yourself or the way you feel,but what you can...

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR Friends or Foes? OK, so now you find the "perfect" imperfect person for you and life is good for the first few weeks. You care about and understand each other so much that it seems nothing can ever break you apart. Few months after and you're thinking 'did I make the right choice?' Well its up to you to know. Isn't it? Relationships are hard work that need a lot of care and attention not to talk of the sacrifices and all the compromise... Sometimes your partner becomes so annoying it feels like you're done...you've had enough, that's when you decide to make the choice of being either "friends" (acknowledging that no relationship is perfect and determining to work it out with your partner) or "foes" (attacking your partner for every mistake). Choice is yours.