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Siblings,friends,everything


A lot of people find themselves in marriages where their partners are like complete strangers. Long story short,they are just 'boss and secretary'.

I used to think this happened during the time arranged marriages were rampant but to my disappointment,no.

I can't even begin to understand. A relationship where everything is so formal? Like imagine this convo;

Husband: Good evening Gloria,how are you today?
Wife: I am fine thank you. i hope you had a good day.What do you wish to eat this evening please?
Husband: some rice with okro stew. Thank you.

I'm so bored I can't continue. What happened to playing and jumping around and stealing each others food and hiding clothes and telling unfunny jokes and teasing etc?? I could go on and on and on and on and I won't end.

I love fun. I love to play. Not that I'm not serious,but you seriously can't be serious all the time. Some people are finding it difficult to create this sort of relationship in their marriages and its because it didn't start from the training ground (when dating) so its hard to begin now that you even have an extra load of responsibilities.

Your partner is also your friend, in fact in my point of view,your partner is your best friend. All other friends are very important but secondary. I've heard many people say my 'best friend and my boy/girlfriend' and I'm thinking, 'they're not the same??' My friend can't know what my partner doesnt know,unless it has nothing to do with him or myself.

I know there are people who unlike me (I like noise and everything that comes with it) are quite introverted. But what we should understand is one of the reasons for relationships and marriage as a whole is companionship. Let's not forget about the purpose too,and there's no way both of you can fulfill purpose if you can't 'flow' with each other. Therefore,compromise and build a strong foundation of friendship with your partner because the truth is after marriage and children, when old age starts catching up with you(plural) all you will have left is your friendship.

Be everything (friend,brother,sister,mom,dad,etc.) to your partner and let your partner be everything to you except your (plural) God.


Comments

  1. Unknown17 April 2018 at 17:50

    Well said. It's sad to imagine that some relationships are so formal and official and straight and rigid. You're doing amazing things with these write ups. Keep it up 👆

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  2. A Poet's Muse18 April 2018 at 08:43

    I totally agree with you, every relationship/marriage must be less strict or rigid.
    I personally prefer the fun.
    Ephya, your writeups are informative.

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