JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR

JOURNEY TO THE ALTAR 
I love you,I appreciate you,I'm sorry

Abrakadabra..."and we lived happily ever after"

What an ending. (sorry you didn't get to hear the full story), but happily ever after does exist,well not like in the fairy tales but they really do.

All you need are the three magic sentences...I love you,I appreciate you and I'm sorry.

When your partner is becoming impossible, the first sentence (i love you)will do, when his imperfections come into play the second sentence (I appreciate you) will do and when you need the peace in your relationship then the third sentence (im sorry)will do. Regardless of who was wrong.

It never really matters who was wrong or right, unless you're planning to move on from that relationship. I used to think 'huh????' Like 'seriously??' Why should I apologise for someone else's mistakes. I'm smiling now because I know you think the same.

Trust me,its not the easiest thing on earth to do but its achievable with time and a lot of love. Sometimes you might even feel foolish but it all adds up to the beauty of your relationship.

I can share my experience...I Carried a double decker bus full of vengeance from my past relationship to the current one I'm in and i would snap at the least thing. I had decided I wasn't going to be anyone's puppet anymore. Not that I didn't love my partner or care about him,it was just something I hadn't dealt with yet.

This continued and continued and every time I snapped, he would apologise even when I was at fault (he gave up sometimes,but he still tried) till I realised I've been wrong all this while  to punish him for something he didn't do.
So I learned it, now I can freely (still learning though) apologise even when I'm not wrong, not just with him but others as well,and I'm so over that pain.

I didn't have to go through any tiresome sessions with any counsellor, love healed me.

The times when I became impossible to be with, he'll just look at me and say "I'm angry with you and I'm not happy but I love you and I know that you are becoming a better person". Like, I still don't get why he had so much patience and faith, but it truly worked for us.

You don't have to wait for your partner to be the best person in the whole world (which is quite impossible) before you appreciate them. Don't wait till when only you are wrong before you apologise and certainly don't wait till you feel like it before you say 'I love you' these words don't take much energy but they are powerful.

I've heard many couples share their experiences on how little things like these have sustained their marriages and it all starts from the training ground, when you're dating. You don't have to wait and say I'll change when I get married, you won't.

Comments

  1. Unknown11 April 2018 at 10:22

    Word

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  2. Unknown11 April 2018 at 10:25

    HmHmm.... Thanks fot sharing luv. .. True talk 💯

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  3. Unknown11 April 2018 at 11:13

    Very true o.... It works like magic, especially the sorry aspect, when you're hurt and you say sorry, the pain just heals like that

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  4. Unknown11 April 2018 at 11:14

    Thanks dear

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  5. Benedy Agorsor11 April 2018 at 11:19

    Human has,pride but for relationships to succeed,you really need there three sentences

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  6. FOKA11 April 2018 at 12:36

    A very good piece with lots of lessons within. Thanks for sharing.

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  7. Unknown11 April 2018 at 12:39

    Beautiful piece.

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  8. LeKMA.blogspot.Teshie11 April 2018 at 14:12

    A very wonderful piece. Keep it up dearest. Infact those three magic words really works.

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  9. A Poet's Muse12 April 2018 at 01:08

    Your writeups are always lively. Girl, keep it up.

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  10. Better must come!12 April 2018 at 06:14

    Lovely piece. Very insightful

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  11. Unknown12 April 2018 at 08:53

    Very insightful and thought provoking.

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  12. We Have A Voice Too12 April 2018 at 13:38

    great piece dear

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  13. Unknown13 April 2018 at 05:01

    A Great Piece

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